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I am my parent's lil monster ?
It disturbs me when I read or hear people around me or on facebook or anywhere happily saying(not intentionally) their lil innocent mind my little monster, brat, monkey or with such negative names.
Ever wondered what would a little mind have a feeling of if the parent's name him or her in a negative?
I am my parent's lil monster. Mom/Dad already name me a troublesome young person so why not act like one!
Three things that never come back: the spent arrow, the lost opportunity, the spoken word. – Willam George Plunkett
There can not be worse thing than parents calling a name to their lil mind as troublesome young person, like monster, fatty, monkey, duffer, brat, their self-value,image and confidence gets hurt. Yes we dont mean it but it actually affects them. And if you call your lil mind with such names, So be ready to Witness more monkeying around from your monkey and low news behavior from your duffer. After all, you asked for it!
Some-times, we parents name our lil minds without really knowing that is it going into of violently angry state, later on leaving a regrets that can not undo the damage caused. You have already made your lil mind having knowledge of about your true feelings for him or her and all the love you show in great number on your lil mind day and night goes for a be rolling about.
Sad, but true!
Lil minds are innocent! Its not their mistake.
Name-calling makes it hard for our lil minds to have belief in their power of being conscious of about themselves.
And without thought or intention of the names given by you, your lil mind feels that they not good enough or my this hillarious behaviour makes my parents delighted and then they try to behave in the same manner. You called your lil mind Monkey because he/she was jumping on the bed. You liked it but few moments later if they keep on repeating you get irritate. Why are you irritated now? Monkeys do jump right?
Name Calling also develop Hate crimes
It is very important that parents never down-play what their kids are feeling or say to them to just have nothing to do with it.
Name-calling is one of the most damaging, painful act. It lets go of lil minds with less than zero notes about who they are. It is also damaging because name-calling attempts to make statement of the sense of words. For example, giving a name to lil mind - fat, slow, feeble, or any other making seem of less value, the lil mind's self-respect, sense of self-value, and ideas about self gets affected or hurt.
Instead use POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS to guide your lil minds in positive thinking.
Now you know that negative labelling or name-calling have ill-effects, imagine how positive labelling can do wonders to your child’s self-esteem and mood!
There is a fine line between nicknames and ‘mean’ names for your child. What say?